Tuesday, June 14, 2016
As I tend to do at times I was sitting in the park just watching the wheels go round one day last week. My mind it seems is forever rambling (Thank goodness for that!) about this and that. Well for no particular reason I began to think about friendship and what all that entails. As I have gotten older I have come to realize that family and friends are the only thing that means very much to me. I am just so thankful that I was born into a family where love and respect was taught from day one. I was taught to respect others and to love people with everything I had. Ok, so I messed up some regarding that. Yeah, I once was more occupied with myself and the things I thought I wanted than I was on learning to love everybody. I know I've changed for the better over my lifetime and I no longer look back with any regrets when it comes to the way I have treated others. And I have been blessed with great family members and many really great friends. But here is what was rambling through my mind on this day about being a friend. There are different types of friends as I'm sure you are aware of. Here is just my views and in no way am I trying to tell you how to be a good friend. Let's say you was to fall and break a leg. A friend may call and say they are sorry to hear about the accident. Another friend may stop by and offer a helping hand with things. Another friend just shows up with enough food ready to eat. Then there is that friend that not only helps you out taking care of chores around the house, but also insists on helping out with the bills until you are able to work again. Another example that crossed my mind was this. God forbid you were to ever get in trouble with the law for anything but let's just say you are falsely arrested for something and taken to jail to await trial. A friend of yours contacts you and wants to know the whole scoop about things. Another friend tells you they are behind you and will help in any way they can. Yet another friend just seems to want to gossip to everyone else about what has happened. Some friends may believe you are guilty of whatever and just turn their back and forget about you. Another friend may go out and try to collect evidence that you are not guilty after all. And another friend tells you this, Whatever you did or didn't do you can count on me to stand beside you and continue to love you no matter what happens. One final example, Just imagine you have "lost" the love of your life when he or she has breathed their last breath as a human being. A friend calls, comes over, and stays with you through the long night ahead, offering solace and compassion. Another friend calls and asks if there is anything they can do. Another friend does whatever needs to be done as you go through the grieving process by helping out with all the small things one has to do on a daily basis. Then there is the friend who not only does all those things, but remains in your life long after this ordeal is over. They realize that so called death is a hardship that we all have to deal with the best way we know how. So rather than disappearing after the funeral services, this friend checks in with you quite often, especially on dates that remind you of the one you have "lost". They also remind you that love never dies and that the person you have loved will always be in your heart. These are just a couple of examples of how being a true friend may entail a little more sacrifices for you but a real friend is truly a blessing. I do hope all of you have some really great friends to be there for you in good or bad times. And to have someone call you a friend is the highest compliment one can receive. In parting may I gently remind you to be good to yourself and even better to others. Show someone this very moment that you consider them a friend and love them deeply. To all of you I wish only the very best to you and yours.
Thursday, June 2, 2016
Most of us have heard that phrase used at times. What happens to us when we are blinded by the light? I suppose it can be used in many different ways. If that dead deer lying by the roadside could talk he's have to say that it cost him his life. Today I'd like to share my personal thoughts on this subject. Needless to say, I've been "blinded" on many different occasions. By the light I am referring to the "Light' one thinks is shining the truth down on them. As I think back on my past years, it really is amazing the number of times I thought I really knew the answers to life. And each time I felt I had "arrived" at the truth it was way too easy for me to tell others the answers. But at long last I finally came to the conclusion that my "truths" are not very important to any one but me. In my days of youth once I had seen the light I could not understand why everyone else could not see the same light. Now I realize how arrogant I was in thinking I had it all figured out. I've come to see that I have been blinded many times by my ego self. But thinking upon these things now help me to accept and understand others actions without condemning them for not seeing things the same way I do. At times I cannot help but see others who I feel may be blinded by the light of their own personal truths. It's not that they are either right, wrong, or somewhere in between. But I can't help but think that they may be so blinded by their light that they are short changing themselves. I say this because if one thinks their light is the only truth there is they have shut their minds off to learning anything new. I do feel it is important for all of us to arrive at some point in living that we do "adopt" our Light. The problem as I see it is that we often times fail to see that other truths lie in wait for us to discover. Also we may tend to judge others too harshly if their truths do not agree with ours. Like a deer blinded by the light of an oncoming car, we may allow our light to cause us to freeze up and never move forward to search for new truths. Truths that may indeed take us to new places in our minds. Tis better to keep moving when we are "wrong" than to freeze up when we think we are "right". This Light we all seek to discover can come to us in many different places. It can also come from just listening to another's truth without prejudging them as wrong. Light comes to us in the most unexpected moments. Beware that at any given moment you may be struck with that oncoming light. If and when this happens to you my hope is that instead of causing you to freeze up, it will enable you to run with it and allow it to help you soar to new heights that until now you have only imagined! Be well my friends. Be good to yourselves and even better to others.